Professional coaching is growing in popularity. Some of the most successful people you know most likely have coaches. In fact, I’ve heard it said that Oprah Winfrey has four coaches. She has a coach for every area of her life she wants to improve upon. From health coaches to life coaches to career coaches and more you can undoubtedly find a professional with the expertise to help you transform your life.
I wholeheartedly believe there is value in partnering with a person who is committed to your success and trained to help you accomplish your goals. But what if you’re in between coaching sessions or just not ready to take the plunge? Don’t fret. I’ve outlined my top three techniques designed to help you coach yourself to success. I use these very strategies with my clients and you can use them too.
How to Coach Yourself to Success
1. Dig Deeper
The first technique is what I call Dig Deeper. Sometimes we can’t quite pinpoint what we want or why we want it. Dig Deeper will help you get to the root of your issue.
Here’s how it works:
Think about an area of your life you want to improve. Write it down. Next, ask yourself, “And what else?” It would go something like this,
I don’t like my job.
And what else?
I’m bored and I don’t feel challenged.
And what else?
I used to feel engaged and challenged at work before I switched teams.
And what else?
I miss the work I used to do.
You keep digging until you’ve “emptied out” as we like to call it in the coaching field. You keep going until there is nothing else. Again, this helps you identify what you really want.
This technique was used with a woman who originally said her problem was her weight. The Dig Deeper exercise revealed that she was unhappy in her marriage and was overeating to compensate for that dissatisfaction. Hopefully, you can see how important it is to understand what’s hiding beneath the surface. Without this exercise, this woman would have put a ton of energy into weight management when her primary focus should have been centered around improving her relationship with her husband.
2. Ask Yourself 3 Questions
As you start to coach yourself, ask yourself these three questions:
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What worked well?
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What didn’t work so well?
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What will I do differently (or similarly) next time?